How to Spot Mr. Wrong (So You Can Make Room for Mr. Right)
We’ve all been there…
You’ve got your eye on him and you’re thinking:
“Hmm… is he into me, or am I just his Netflix and chill?”
The suspense. The confusion. The WTF is even going on energy.
If you’re dealing with a guy who’s hot one minute, cold the next—hello, Mr. Flake—then girl, it’s time to wise up. Here’s how to spot the signs he’s just not that into you… so you can stop wasting time and start calling in your Mr. Right.
The Signs You’re Dating Mr. Wrong
The Physical Signs (aka “He’s Not Feeling It”)
Avoids eye contact. Arms crossed. Emotionally MIA.
Honey, he’s not just bad at conversation—he’s not interested. Don’t wait around hoping he’ll “open up.” This isn’t a rom-com. It’s your real life. And in your story? You’re the star. Not the backup dancer.
The Emotional Signs (aka “We’re Still Just Friends… Right?”)
Six months in and he still can’t say how he feels? Girl. No.
If he’s dodging emotional intimacy, you’re not his forever—you’re his temporary. The man who wants you will make his feelings crystal clear.
He Ignores or Disrespects You (aka “Goodbye, Sweetie”)
Disrespect isn’t just rude—it’s disqualifying.
If he’s ignoring your voice, your values, or your needs, it’s time to delete his number and his energy from your life. You deserve someone who adores you, all of you, flaws and all.
He Shoots Down Your Social Invitations (aka “I’m Not Interested in You”)
If he’s always “busy” or “not sure,” he’s not invested. A guy who wants you in his world will move mountains—not make excuses.
Mr. Player: The Honeymooner (aka “Red Flags Galore”)
All fireworks and fantasies… until the spark fades. Don’t get swept away by the initial rush and the love-bombing. This guy loves the chase but ghosts the second it gets real. Be cautious. Watch his follow-through, not just his charm.
Mr. Flake (aka “Cancel, Cancel, Cancel”)
Canceling last minute, ghosting plans, zero follow-up? Babe, you’re not his priority—you’re his Plan Z. You deserve better. Period. Cut him loose before your schedule becomes a personal waiting room.
Mr. Afraid of Commitment (aka “The Eternal Dater”)
If he’s been “figuring things out” for months (or years)? You’re not in a relationship—you’re in emotional limbo. And limbo is for parties, not your love life.
Mr. Taken (aka “The One Who’s Always With Someone Else”)
If he’s already got a girlfriend but tells you “it’s complicated”—girl, RUN. And I don’t mean power walk—I mean high heels in hand, full-body sprint.
If he’ll cheat with you, he’ll cheat on you. You are not his backup plan, emotional Band-Aid, or sexy little secret. You are the whole damn buffet—five-star entrée, champagne pairing, and VIP table, baby.
Let’s be real: if he wanted to leave her, he would’ve. He’s not stuck—he’s stalling. Why? Because he loves getting the attention without giving you anything real in return.
Bottom line? You deserve a man who’s single, emotionally available, and absolutely obsessed with you. Not some taken dude tossing you crumbs while keeping one foot in someone else’s bed.
Delete the texts. Block the number. Reclaim your crown.
Mr. Long Distance (aka “The Fantasy Man”)
Oh babe, the texts are spicy, the FaceTimes are flirty, and the chemistry? Off. The. Charts. But let’s be honest—if he lives three states away and your “relationship” runs on emojis and buffering Wi-Fi, it’s more fantasy than future.
Unless he’s making real moves—flights, plans to relocate, a timeline for an actual future (with matching zip codes and groceries in the same fridge)—you’re not in a relationship. You’re in a situationship with signal issues.
And don’t get it twisted: some guys love the distance. They get all the attention, affection, and “I miss you” magic—without ever having to actually show up. It’s romance with zero responsibility.
You are not a digital daydream. You are not meant to chase time zones and wait for “someday.” If he wants you, he’ll close the gap, drive the miles and pack the damn U-Haul. Period.
Bottom line: Don’t confuse fireworks through a screen with a lasting spark. If it’s all talk and no travel, wish him well—and move on to someone who brings the real thing, not just a signal.
He Never Makes Plans in Advance (aka “You’re Just an Option, Babe”)
Oh this guy. The king of the last-minute “Hey, what are you doing tonight?” text. Spoiler alert: you’re not his priority—you’re his backup plan. A convenient little maybe.
If he’s not locking in plans ahead of time, it’s because he’s leaving space—for someone else, for his fantasy freedom, or just because he’s too lazy to actually show up. And honey, if he’s not stepping up? He’s leaving the door wide open for another man to swoop in and claim what he clearly can’t handle.
The right man? He’s strategic AF. He’s booking that dinner. He’s circling the calendar. He’s making damn sure no one else gets the chance to take you off the market. Because when he wants you, he doesn’t play. He plans.
You are not a spontaneous slot in his empty schedule. You’re the main event. The headliner. The woman who deserves to be anticipated, not fit in.
Bottom line? If he’s not making room for you in advance, he’s not making room for you in his life. Block. Delete. Move on to someone who recognizes you’re the prize—and acts like it.
He Only Comes Over Late at Night (aka “Booty Call Alert!”)
If he’s never available during the day, but shows up like clockwork when the sun sets… guess what? You’re not the girlfriend, you’re the late-night special. Wake up, girl, you deserve more than a midnight booty call. You’re not in his “plans.” He’s in it for the convenience—not the commitment.
Friends with Benefits (aka “Temporary Fun”)
Let’s be clear: If you’ve agreed to be “friends with benefits,” congrats, you’re basically a placeholder. He’s keeping you warm while he looks for someone else who’s actually worth committing to. If you want more than just a hook-up, don’t settle for this. You’re not a “right now” girl—you’re a forever girl. Make sure he knows that by not sticking around for the temporary ride.
You Never Meet His Friends or Family (aka “You’re a Secret”)
Six months in, and you still haven’t met the squad or his fam? Houston, we have a problem. If he’s serious, he’ll want to show you off. But if you’re still “mysterious” to his inner circle, you’re probably his side dish, not the main course. Let’s face it, you’re a secret—and that’s never cute.
The Silent Treatment (aka “Goodbye, Darling”)
This is the grand finale of signs: the silent treatment. If he’s pulling away emotionally and physically, cutting off communication, and just generally acting like you don’t exist—he’s already checked out. Don’t wait around for a guy who’s not showing up. He’s out, and so should you be.
Bottom Line: Kick Him to the Curb
You know the truth. Deep down, you always know.
If a guy isn’t showing up for you—emotionally, physically, spiritually—it’s time to cut the cord. Your energy is sacred. Your time is valuable. Your love is a gift.
Don’t waste it on someone who can’t recognize your worth.
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xo,
Zuri